PLACE OF VISION IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

Vision is having a picture of what you want to be in future, where you want to be or who you want to be. Myles Munroe of blessed memory said “when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable”. The place of vision in a relationship cannot be over-emphasized. If God has a purpose for your marriage—and I believe He does—then vision is letting God reveal to you what that purpose is. It’s asking, “God, why did you put us together?” and listening for the answer. Part…

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BE THE RIGHT PERSON INSTEAD

Often times, you hear people say, “I’m searching for the right man, I’m searching for the right woman”. Or make a statement like “I need a man who can take care of me”. But have you ever sat down to ask yourself some pertinent questions? Are you the right person? Can you actually take care of him or her? You’ll always attract your kind, because the way you’re searching for the right person, that’s the same way he/she also is seeking for the right person. The way you’re looking out…

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WHY WAIT TILL MARRIAGE?

We live in a society where sex is sold cheaply. The world sells sex. When you come across an advert, you are likely to notice a common trend in most of the adverts- ladies. Ladies are often used as sex appeals in a bid to market products or services. When they advertise cars, they would use ladies; they would also use ladies when they want to advertise houses for sale. You come across musical videos, and you see some of the ladies almost nude, while the guys on the other…

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SINGLE, YET FULFILLED

I remember when I was still in the university. As I got to my final year, people began to ask, “so when are you getting married?” I wasn’t really surprised or taken aback, because I’ve actually come to realise that we live in a society where so much importance is attached to marriage, a society where people hold tenaciously to the belief that once a lady is done with school or National Youth Service, then the next step for her to take should be marriage. In this part of the…

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BEHIND THE VEIL

Often times, we see people on the outside and just envy them, we “fall in love” with them just by looking at the way they dress, comport themselves, and perhaps the way they speak with drawl. But we always fail to think about what they are behind the veils. The real us is not the us that are projected on the outside. The real us is the one behind the veil. Most times, our public life is just a mere show, like we’re acting a movie, and we most likely…

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COMPONENTS OF TRUE LOVE

‎John 13:34-35 – ‎1 Corinthians 13:4 – 13:8 – ‎1 Corinthians 13:1 – 13:13 To be truly and genuinely in love, a lot of things have to be in place, if these things are not in place, then it’s either you are not in love or maybe you’re just simply deceiving yourself. Here are some of the components of true love: 1. Purity: The issue of purity, virginity and chastity seem to have been thrown down the drain in recent times. You hear youths say, afterall, it’s the 21st century, so anything goes. Pre marital sex…

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ANGER IN RELATIONSHIPS: Helpful Steps to Dealing with Anger- 1

Many people have failed to acknowledge, accept and understand the God-given emotion of anger. Most people instead of naming the emotion and facing it head-on as a fact of life, they rather try to sit on it, shut it out and silence it. Webster’s dictionary defines anger as “emotional excitement induced by intense displeasure.” When we experience anger, our mind and our body prepare to act, it involves physical and emotional energy. It is however up to us whether we use that energy in constructive ways or use it to…

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LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT: DREAMLAND OR REALITY (1)

We have heard so much about love, read so much about it and even talked a lot about it too, but sometimes we see how so many ‘beautiful’ relationships end abruptly, and we can’t help but re-think if what those people actually felt was truly love. So much have been written, even said about ‘love at sight’, a lady sees a man and her heart skips a bit or it starts beating very fast, she feels she has finally seen her ‘Mr Right’ ‘Her knight in shining armour’. But the…

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THE PLACE OF CHARACTER AND INTEGRITY IN RELATIONSHIP

Integrity is built around your word and character, that is, consistency in words and action. A man/woman of integrity has little or no character flaws and is honest. It entails developing good and admirable character traits. A person of integrity is almost perfect and flawless in his words and actions. Character is essentially “who we are”. A person’s character tells so much about an individual’s values, the manner in which he/she act in a certain circumstance/situation and how they are likely to lead their family. Character and integrity are somewhat…

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EMBRACE YOURSELF

The greatest love you can ever experience is not the love of your spouse, parents or friends, but the love you actually have for you. Do you appreciate you? As a woman, you have three relationships that must be balanced so as to achieve fulfillment. First and foremost is her relationship with herself; a strong relationship with oneself is a necessary precursor to every other meaningful relationship in life. If as a woman, you do not have a firm relationship with yourself, you will recklessly pursue external relationships in the…

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